#AncientAbledProverbs: 45 Things NOT To Say to People with Disabilities
So the fabulous @HijaDe2Madre started this twitter hashtag that went viral called #AncientAbledProverbs about things people with disabilities are tired of hearing. Check out #AncientAbledProverbs on Twitter!
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I tried my best (despite the current pain I’m in; yay otitis media!) to create an inclusive list. Follow the talented @shapkaa on Twitter who created the “Now That’s What I Call Ablesim” graphic! It’s hard to know what to say sometimes but listening is more helpful than aphorisms. Listening is validating. And when possible, offer tangible ways to help a sick friend such as asking, “Can I take you grocery shopping?” The other day my niece asked me what I need and brought over some basil chips to help me deal with my polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS) pain. Basil helps me with PCOS pain. As someone who lives with PCOS, myasthenia gravis, bipolar disorder, psoriasis, and asthma, I could relate to all of these.
List of 45 #AncientAbledProverbs:
https://twitter.com/HijaDe2Madre/status/884477643147444224
https://twitter.com/perfecthannah/status/883548662349082624
https://twitter.com/kinsey666/status/883768677794947073
https://twitter.com/murraymeetze/status/883570258170269697
https://twitter.com/SecretsPositive/status/883635166173908992
Pain is just weakness leaving the body#AncientAbledProverbs
— already a cyborg (@grittysurreal) July 8, 2017
"It must be so great to be at home all day."
Yeah, the 24/7 pain I've been in for 24 years is really great /sarcasm/ #AncientAbledProverbs
— Grayson (he/him) (@GraysonGoal) July 11, 2017
#ancientabledproverbs "A man who marries a disabled woman is a saint and she's lucky to have him."
— Charlotte ציפּורה Issyvoo (@CIssyvoo) July 11, 2017
https://twitter.com/SurlyCripple/status/884421755699208192
https://twitter.com/mookpixie/status/884372062307061761
"we need to make cuts to #Medicaid because so many people take advantage/not really disabled" #AncientAbledProverbs
— @JessicaGimeno@disabled.social (@JessicaGimeno) July 9, 2017
https://twitter.com/monanotlisa/status/884308379144929281
"You create your own reality, you know. You need to find out why you called this disability into your life." #AncientAbledProverbs
— what the wicked queen would wear on her days off (@LionessElise) July 10, 2017
https://twitter.com/SpaceMerrow/status/884247741748043776
#AncientAbledProverbs "Im not going to allow you to apply for disability support because you are too young and it will make you give up"
— SuchFinanceWow (@ChronicFinance) July 10, 2017
You're too young to need a cane!
#AncientAbledProverbs— Shades (@CyanBullock) July 10, 2017
https://twitter.com/KarenDeLabar/status/884169573750243328
https://twitter.com/Kitten_Fish/status/884145963836874753
https://twitter.com/farrahgarland/status/884139027603099648
"When you're old like me you'll understand what it's like to be in pain"
"You young ppl just don't understand"
#AncientAbledProverbs— Maggie C (@iSpiderWriter) July 9, 2017
I saw a pic of you smiling on social media having fun w/ friends. But I thought you were sick? #AncientAbledProverbs
— KD Cap (@cap_kd) July 9, 2017
"You can't have a headache all the time." #AncientAbledProverbs #ChronicMigraine
— Beth Morton (@beth_morton) July 9, 2017
I think you just aren't trying hard enough. If you really wanted to, you could do (activity/job) like you used to. #AncientAbledProverbs
— Toni Snark (@toni_snark) July 9, 2017
"life is 10% what happens to you; 90% how you react." #ancientabledproverbs Even if you have 5 #chronic illnesses – try it some time
— @JessicaGimeno@disabled.social (@JessicaGimeno) July 9, 2017
https://twitter.com/TheBlackWildcat/status/885018136671645696
Like me with my #ServiceDog, Jack & I see people I haven't seen in a long time, "SOOO, you THINK you NEED a #ServiceDog now?!". …(sigh)
— Mary K. Klontz-Deane (@doodlebugmom) July 12, 2017
You don't need to take so many painkillers, if you concentrate you can think the pain away. #ancientabledproverbs
— TheDivineGoat (@TheDivineGoat) July 10, 2017
Far truer than the #AncientAbledProverbs of "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger"
So far, my muscle wastage failing to make me strong pic.twitter.com/qcSa44DFEQ— Alice & Boogles ACCOUNT NOT ACTIVE (@Wooden_MariaGO) July 11, 2017
https://twitter.com/Luciek11K/status/884829514701864963
My (distant relation) had that. All you need is sunshine, yoga, and oil made from llama snot. #AncientAbledProverbs
— Max Vast {they/them} (@voidisvast) July 10, 2017
"Someone always has it worse. Mind over matter" #AncientAbledProverbs
— Jessica (@JessCanSo) July 10, 2017
https://twitter.com/mgrossoauthor/status/884116166318469120
"Everything happens for a reason" but sometimes the illness hasn't been studied enough or at all to know the reason, or fix it, so stfu
— SuchFinanceWow (@ChronicFinance) July 9, 2017
https://twitter.com/buttahflyk/status/883896570411978752
"You can stand up from your wheelchair? Faker!!!" #ancientabledproverbs
— Kat in California (@1BendyKat) July 8, 2017
#ancientabledproverbs
"My friends, neighbours dog groomer had that, drank her own piss infused with meteorites for a month and is now cured"— Alice & Boogles ACCOUNT NOT ACTIVE (@Wooden_MariaGO) July 9, 2017
I'd rather DIE than [insert anything I have to do to survive, e.g. take shots,eat gluten free,take so many pills,etc]#AncientAbledProverbs
— Erin Gilmer (Legacy) (@GilmerHealthLaw) July 9, 2017
"Don't you know how they treat people like you in other countries? Why are you complaining?"
— hija (@HijaDe2Madre) July 8, 2017
"don't say you're in pain. be positive!" #ancientabledproverb (Be in denial because you telling the truth makes me uncomfortable)
— @JessicaGimeno@disabled.social (@JessicaGimeno) July 9, 2017
"don't say you're in #pain; say you have faith" #ancientabledproverb I don't remember that verse, even Jesus wept. #empathy tact
— @JessicaGimeno@disabled.social (@JessicaGimeno) July 9, 2017
https://twitter.com/spwarriortweets/status/883824949982613505
https://twitter.com/HijaDe2Madre/status/883571517950353408
"You can't date "normal" girls because they want a man with money."#ancientabledproverb
My son got this last week. Like hell he can't.
— eunice haynes (@ducky1934) July 9, 2017
"Happiness is a choice." #ancientabledproverbs
— Chai Elemental #StopTheShock (@IMissCarrie) July 8, 2017
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