How to Laugh At Pain; What I’ve Taught My Doctors

Today is the twenty-third day of WEGO’s National Health Blog Post Month.  Here is today’s question:  Teaching the Teacher:  
What’s something you taught your doctor related to your health?  MY ANSWER:  I’ve taught my neurologist and her staff about having a sense of humor despite illness. 

Neurologists, Radiologists, OBGYNs Don’t Address Emotional Pain

photo-39For the chronically ill, checkups and going to the hospital are somber occasions.  My journey with Prednisone has been a rollercoaster.  Perform well on my Myasthenia Gravis (MG) tests and I go down 1 mg.  Perform poorly and I can go up by as much as 5 mg, which also causes me to gain weight.  In addition to having MG (a neuromuscular autoimmune disease similar to MS), I also have Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS).  And I come from a family of cancer survivors.  So I’ve spent much of my life in the hospital.  I now know more about illnesses than I ever wanted to!  I joke that I have a Masters from U of AI, University of Autoimmune.  But in all seriousness, one thing doctors don’t usually address is the emotional consequences of chronic pain, fatigue, and uncertainty.  How do we survive this?  It’s not normal to be in pain 24/7.  Certainly, faith, therapy and having a support network of family and friends have helped.  But one powerful tool that’s kept me from losing my mind is having a sense of humor.  Laughter is, arguably, the most overlooked tool for surviving pain. 

How to “Vacationize” Hospital Visits

At one of my hospital visits, I decided to “vacationize” my checkup because I spend almost all my vacation/PTO days in the hospital.  I decided to have a Hawaiian vacation.  photo-51I wore a lei around my neck, put a flower in my hair, and took pictures at different places in the hospital like I was site-seeing.  Hospital staff even played along; nurses asked me questions like, “Are you enjoying your stay?” I honestly can’t remember the results of that visit (whether I went up or down on Prednisone) but I do remember having a good time.  After the visit, I went to The Tiki Terrace with my mom.  We took some great pictures, and I put an umbrella in my drink because no vacation is complete without the requisite “umbrella in the drink pictures.”

No Vacation is Complete without the Requisite Umbrella
No Vacation is Complete without the Requisite Umbrella

One thing I learned is that we have to force ourselves to laugh at our hardships; it doesn’t come naturally.  It’s far easier to be angry or even bitter.  But laugher is necessary for survival.  I previously blogged about a time when I was bedridden and my close friend Pat brought over the greatest hits of Dave Chappelle.  I laughed and laughed.  And I felt less lonely.

For ten tips on how to vacationize your hospital visit or stay, see previous entries here and here.

Laughter and Pain

At Tiki Terrace-After my Neuro Appt
At Tiki Terrace-After my Neuro Appt

When I’m watching Bill Cosby, Carol Burnett, Katt Williams, or Chris Rock, I start laughing even when I’m in a “life sucks” mood.  And somehow laughter makes me feel better.  It doesn’t magically take away the pain, but it makes it bearable.  Without a sense of humor, I might become bitter multitasking MG, PCOS, asthma, and Bipolar Disorder.  Life with chronic pain, emotional or physical, is absurd.  Laughing at it turns that absurdity on its head and says, “I refuse to let you win!”

I’m not sure what I’ll do at my next neurology checkup in February.  Maybe a Disney-themed vacationized visit?  Stay tuned for tomorrow’s post as I continue the WEGO Challenge.

–Your Stylist,

Jessica Gimeno

JessicaGimeno

Hi there! I am a patient advocate, writer, and public speaker most well known for my TEDx Talk, “How to Get Stuff Done When You Are Depressed.” As someone who is juggling 5 illnesses: bipolar 2, myasthenia gravis, endometriosis, psoriasis, and asthma, I’m passionate about helping people who navigate life with both chronic physical & emotional pain. If you’re interested in hiring me to speak at your event, check out the CONTACT tab.

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